Fear busters: 7 ways to help your toddler cope with separation anxiety

Say goodbye to tears.

While it’s natural for kids to go through phases of separation anxiety when away from their parents, it can be a challenging and stressful time for the whole family – especially when it comes to daily routines like dropping them off at school or daycare.

It may be reassuring to know that this separation anxiety is a common and a developmentally appropriate and healthy response in toddlers as it shows they’ve formed a close attachment to their caregiver. 

Helping your toddler cope with separation anxiety requires patience, empathy and understanding.

Tips to help your toddler cope with separation anxiety

1. Stay calm: Children often pick up on your emotions so try not to manage your own worries about or upset about leaving them. Remain positive and calm and offer lots of reassurance that you will be coming back.

2. Stick to a routine: Create a consistent routine for your toddler as knowing what to expect will help reduce their anxiety. Try and stick to the same timings for meals, naps and bedtime.
3. Take it slow and steady:Try leaving your toddler for short periods of time and gradually increase the time you spend apart. This will help your little one to feel comfortable being away from you and reassured that you will return soon. 
4. Say goodbye:As tempting as it can be to avoid an upset, don’t sneak away without saying goodbye. Instead, give your toddler a kiss and a hug, say goodbye with a smile, and let them know you’ll be back. Avoid long goodbyes as it can make their anxiety worse if it’s dragged out too long. 

Giving your child a happy goodbye may help them understand they are in a safe place. (Image: Getty)

5. Communication is key:Whether it’s daycare drop-off or you’re leaving your child with family or friends, ensure the caregiver is aware of your child’s separation anxiety and ask them to work with you make your departure as smooth as possible.
6. Create a comforting environment:Send your child to daycare with their favourite toy or blanket. A familiar item to cuddle may help them feel more at ease. 

You might also like to pack snacks and drinks that you know your little one enjoys. Aptamil Gold+ Toddler, a premium toddler nutritional supplement suitable for children from one year old. A toddler milk drink may often be associated with routines, and the soothing warmth and familiarity may help your toddler relax and feel secure. 

7. Celebrate small wins:When your child has a successful separation, be sure to tell them you’re proud of them and that they were very brave.

As challenging as this phase can be, remember, it will eventually pass. Most children tend to outgrow separation anxiety as they become more confident in their surroundings and their attachment to you becomes more secure. 

Always consult a medical professional or a child psychologist for guidance and support. 

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